I believe that psychotherapy is a series of conversations with an educated, empathetic, and experienced listener.
In psychotherapy, our goal is to understand who you are and what drives you, which in turn helps guide you toward making better decisions and finding more satisfaction in your life.
My perspective is psychodynamic. I focus on understanding the whole person, especially conflicts and feelings that are outside of awareness. Most of us seek psychotherapy because we want to change, but we are not sure how to change, or why it is so hard to change. Discovering more about aspects of yourself in a safe therapy relationship is one of the most effective means of personal change.
I work with a wide range of couple problems, including:
Repetitive conflicts and unproductive fighting
Lack of intimacy and sexual problems
Affairs and their aftermath
Conflicts about money
Impact of addictions
Conflicting parenting styles
Stresses of parenting adolescents, ill children, and children with learning challenges
Stresses of aging
Deciding to separate or divorce
Co-parenting during and after divorce
Adjusting to blended families
Difficulties with in-laws and families of origin
Individual problems I treat include:
Depression and sadness
Anxiety, worry, and stress
Grief and loss
Problems in intimate relationships, including sexual intimacy, difficulties with commitment, and difficulties figuring out whether to "stay or go"
Work-related difficulties, including interpersonal conflicts and career decisions
Identity issues, including sexual and gender identity
Establishing healthy boundaries with family of origin
"Failure to launch," and other challenges with leaving home
Transition to parenthood, and the decision to have children, including adoption, surrogacy, and fostering
Choosing a Therapist
Choosing a therapist can feel like a daunting task, especially if you are in crisis. Here are a few suggestions for navigating the process:
Don’t wait. You owe yourself the most satisfying life you can have, and problems have a way of becoming harder to solve the longer you wait to address them.
Give yourself time to find the right therapist. Ask around for recommendations and then do your own research. Make sure to speak voice-to-voice with a prospective therapist. Don’t be shy about asking about his or her training, credentials, and approach to therapy. Communicate about your scheduling needs and any financial constraints you may have.
Consider meeting with more than one therapist at the outset. Finding a therapist you want to work with is important. Meeting face-to-face for a session or two can help you determine whether you feel it is a good “fit.” It’s normal to feel a bit anxious or uncomfortable at an initial session. But the right therapist should inspire some sense of confidence that the relationship will grow in comfort and trust, and that you will be able to share your deeper thoughts and feelings over time.