Daphne de Marneffe, PhD


After receiving my bachelor’s degree from Harvard University, I earned an MA and PhD in Clinical Psychology at U.C. Berkeley, and went on to complete my pre- and postdoctoral internships at California Pacific Medical Center in San Francisco.

I am a licensed clinical psychologist with almost thirty years of experience working with a wide range of mental health problems.  I am experienced with a diverse population of individuals and couples – married and unmarried, gay and straight, young and old, as well as biological, adoptive, step-, and fostering parents.  I treat depression, anxiety, grief and loss, marital distress, and the problems of daily living.

My therapy approach and writing draw on two major fields of study: developmental psychology and psychodynamic psychotherapy.  I have studied psychological challenges across the life cycle, including the transition to parenthood, the effects of divorce on children, the development of gender identity in toddlers, identity conflicts for new mothers, marriage, and midlife.  As a research-trained clinician, I see psychology as an evolving science, and continually integrate current research findings into my clinical practice. 


A.B. Magna cum laude, Psychology and Social Relations, Harvard University
M.A. Clinical Psychology, University of California at Berkeley
Ph.D. Clinical Psychology, University of California at Berkeley
Predoctoral and Postdoctoral Internships, California Pacific Medical Center

Licensed Clinical Psychologist (PSY 14533)

American Psychological Association (APA), Member
Division 39, Psychoanalysis, of the APA (Division 39), Member
San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis (SFCP), Community member
Northern California Society for Psychoanalytic Psychology (NCSPP), Member
California Pacific Medical Center (CPMC), Women’s Mental Health and Wellness Program, Instructor

de Marneffe, D. (2018). The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together.  NY: Scribner.
de Marneffe, D.  (2004).  Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life.  New York: Little, Brown and Company.

Selected Articles
de Marneffe, D. (2009). “The (M)other We Fall in Love With Wants to be There”: Reply to Commentaries." Studies in Gender and Sexuality, 10: 27 – 32.
de Marneffe, D. (2006). “What Exactly Is the Transformation of Motherhood?” Studies in Gender and Sexuality, 10: 27 – 32. de Marneffe, D.  (1997).  "Bodies and Words: A Study of Young Children's Genital and Gender Knowledge."  Gender and Psychoanalysis, 2, no. 1 (Winter 1997).
de Marneffe, D.  (1991).  “Looking and Listening:  The Construction of Clinical Knowledge in Charcot and Freud.”  Signs: Journal of Women in Culture and Society,  17, no. 1 (Autumn 1991).